Saying Goodbye...

Today is the last day of the Sexy Siren Love/Sex blog...and all of our blogs actually. After 8 months of giving you my thoughts on dating, sharing stories with you, and answering questions, we have decided it's time to move on. Tear.

This goodbye actually reminds me of a relationship I was once in--he and I were good together. We had fun, good chemistry, and shared lots of laughs, but in the end, we just weren't headed in the same direction. So we had to go our separate ways. The good news is that now, we still consider each other friends.

And that's how I see it now. I'm not going anywhere, our relationship is just changing. Maybe even maturing? From here on, you can find me on Facebook or check out my personal blog (I promise to start updating it more regularly now) at www.susanyara.com.

That being said, I wasn't going to go out without answering one more love/sex question. A reader sent me an email saying that her fiance told her he used to have sexual relations with men before they started dating. Now, he definitely isn't with other men (or women) because he is sure that he's in love with her and wants to marry her. He just felt the need to be honest that he is bi-sexual before she married him.

What should she do?

My answer to her is--follow your gut instinct. If he's just telling you because he wants to get that off his chest, then fine. Now you have to decide two things. First, does the thought of him with men (whether before you or not) bother you at all? If it does, you need to be honest with him about that. If it doesn't, well good. You should be able to move on.

BUT...here's the second part. I think it does bother you. Either the thought of him being with men or the reason behind why he told you. Or even both.

If you're worried that he might still want to be with men in the future, then you need to address that with him. And that's where the listening to your gut comes in. He's giving you full disclosure so that you can make a decision and not go back on that decision in the future if you hear of something from his past. Or worse, if there is a future incident.

I'm sorry if I sound skepticle in any way, but I know that if I were in your position, I don't know if I could handle it. I'm not saying this to be mean or hurtful to anyone, but I know that it would bother me. Especially if he had hid this from me for so long. It might not have been bad if the relationship had started with all information out on the table, but since it was hidden for so long, I wonder what else he is hiding.

At the same time, I don't know your relationship. That's why it's ultimately your decision. Good luck and I really hope that all of it works out for the best.

Thank you fo my readers and thank you to SiTV and my editors, Jesus and Kamren!! 

xoxo

Susan