Be a Man

Guys…lets get one thing straight. When you’re a teenager, in high school and even in college, it’s fine to let girls hit on you. Actually, I’m pretty sure a lot of young ladies like hitting on you because it makes them feel like they’re being strong, outspoken, independent women, BUT, as they get older, they also get over that notion.

It’s funny because my mom used to always tell me not to call boys when I was younger and back then, I just thought she was being an old-fashioned prude who didn’t want me to date, but now I completely understand what she was trying to say--it doesn't matter whether I want to be with the guy, he should want to be with me. Every woman should have this mindset. 

You see, when a single woman is standing around at a bar, grocery shopping, getting her morning coffee, or strolling down the sidewalk, she’s not only hoping to meet a man, but she’s hoping he will hit on her when she gives him a simple smile (that’s your cue). Otherwise, she’s just going to keep on walking and wonder whether you had a girlfriend or if you were too chicken to speak up. She’ll probably question herself as well and wonder if maybe she should have said something to you, but in the end, she’ll know it was right to keep going.  

That’s the more mature version of her being strong and independent. I’m serious. There’s something to be said of the woman who can confidently wait for a man to pursue her because that means she’s not just looking for any old hookup, and especially not looking for a guy who can’t simply ask her for her number (what else will he be scared to do?).

And look, I’m not saying ladies shouldn’t take matters into their own hands if they feel compelled to, I just recommend that you think hard before you do. Ask yourself, if a man were really into you, wouldn’t he go out of his way to let you know it?

I think it’s the best way to feel secure that the guy will stick around for the long haul too. As time goes by, you really just want to get to the point, right?

So guys--quit standing around hoping the ladies will hit on you already. Be a man. What's the worst that can happen? She says no?